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Child Abuse

Child abuse is harm to, or neglect of, a child by another person, whether adult or child. Child abuse happens in all cultural, ethnic, and income groups. Child abuse can be physical, emotional - verbal, sexual or through neglect. Abuse may cause serious injury to the child and may even result in death.
Signs of possible abuse include:

Physical Abuse
Unexplained or repeated injuries such as welts, bruises, or burns.
Injuries that are in the shape of an object (belt buckle, electric cord, etc.)
Injuries not likely to happen given the age or ability of the child. For example, broken bones in a child too young to walk or climb.
Disagreement between the child's and the parent's explanation of the injury.
Unreasonable explanation of the injury.
Obvious neglect of the child (dirty, undernourished, inappropriate clothes for the weather, lack of medical or dental care).
Fearful behavior.
Emotional - Verbal Abuse
Aggressive or withdrawn behavior.
Shying away from physical contact with parents or adults.
Afraid to go home.
Sexual Abuse
Child tells you he/she was sexually mistreated.
Child has physical signs such as:
difficulty in walking or sitting.
stained or bloody underwear.
genital or rectal pain, itching, swelling, redness, or discharge
bruises or other injuries in the genital or rectal area.
Child has behavioral and emotional signs such as:
difficulty eating or sleeping.
soiling or wetting pants or bed after being potty trained.
acting like a much younger child.
excessive crying or sadness.
withdrawing from activities and others.
talking about or acting out sexual acts beyond normal sex play for age.
Abuse can happen in any family, regardless of any special characteristics. However, in dealing with parents, be aware of characteristics of families in which abuse may be more likely:

Families who are isolated and have no friends, relatives, church or other support systems.
Parents who tell you they were abused as children.
Families who are often in crisis (have money problems, move often).
Parents who abuse drugs or alcohol.
Parents who are very critical of their child.
Parents who are very rigid in disciplining their child.
Parents who show too much or too little concern for their child.
Parents who feel they have a difficult child.
Parents who are under a lot of stress.
If you suspect child abuse of any kind, you should:

Take the child to a quiet, private area.
Gently encourage the child to give you enough information to evaluate whether abuse may have occurred.
Remain calm so as not to upset the child.
If the child reveals the abuse, reassure him/her that you believe him/her, that he/she is right to tell you, and that he/she is not bad.
Tell the child you are going to talk to persons who can help him/her.
Return the child to the group (if appropriate).
Record all information.
Immediately report the suspected abuse to the proper local authorities. In most states, reporting suspected abuse is required by law.
If you employ other providers or accept volunteers to help you care for the children in your facility, you should check their background for a past history of child abuse or other criminal activity. Contact your local police department. Many states require that child care providers have background and criminal history checks.

Dealing with child abuse is emotionally difficult for a provider. As a child care provider, you should get training in recognizing and reporting child abuse before you are confronted with a suspected case. If you suspect a case of child abuse, you may need to seek support from your local health department, child support services department, or other sources within your area.

*reproduced from a CDC guide to intentional injuries.

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Child Abuse Internet Resources:
Child Abuse and Incest Support: About.com guide to articles, sites and other resources about child abuse, domestic violence and sexual assault.
Child Abuse: Child abuse affects many children of all ages. Learn to recognize the signs of child abuse and what to do if you suspect that a child is being physically, emotionally or sexually abused.
Child Abuse Prevention Network: "the Internet Nerve Center for professionals in the field of child abuse and neglect. Child maltreatment, physical abuse, psychological maltreatment, neglect, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse and neglect are our key areas of concern. We provide unique and powerful tools for all workers to support the identification, investigation, treatment, adjudication, and prevention of child abuse and neglect."
End Child Abuse: "a community of people dedicated to breaking the cycle of child abuse and neglect, serving and strengthening children and families."
National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect Information: The Clearinghouse is a national resource for professionals and others seeking information on child abuse and neglect and child welfare.
Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Adolescents: An Overview: "In the past two decades, there has been growing recognition of the prevalence of domestic violence in our society. Moreover, it has become apparent that some individuals are at greater risk for victimization than others. Domestic violence has adverse effects on individuals, families, and society in general."
Parenting the Sexually Abused Child: This article will provide you with some basic information about child sexual abuse as well as some special considerations for parents who adopt these children.
How to Report Suspected Child Abuse: If you suspect that a child is being abused or neglected, you should call your local Child Protective Services (CPS) agency or the CPS agency in the State in which the abuse occurred. We have listed below the toll free numbers for the States that have them.

Comments (6)

That's so ture!As he said he made a promise to himself that he would NEVER do to his kids what his father did to him because it effected him so much what he went through and he didn't want his children to go through the same thing.Angel isn't even the best way to discribe how divne he is.

Michael is one of those incredibley sensitive human beings who "broke the cycle" of child abuse with his own children. He is not passing on the horror of it to the next generation. Michael was such a loving and gifted man in so many ways, his children were so blessed to have him as their father. Michaels strength and perserverance in the face of all he went through, is a testament to his faith in himself and God.

I don't know how Joseph sleeps at night knowing how badly he treated his children.
@barbieluvsmj:Me eiether!And for micheal to become so gentle and kind and love his children to a falut amazes me.And when he said''MJ: I can’t see him as the new man. I am like an angel in front of him, like scared. One day he said to me, “Why are you scared of me?” I couldn’t answer him. I felt like saying, “Do you know what you have done?” [voice breaks] “Do you know what you have done to me?” I still shiver hearing him say that.

It is horrifying and heartbreaking what Michael had to endure both emotionally and physically at the hands of his father. I doubt if any of us could have survived as well as Michael did and still turn out to be such a loving human being and such a wonderful father to his own children. I don't know how Joseph sleeps at night knowing how badly he treated his children.

Shmuley Boteach: You know, Michael, I used to judge my father a lot and one day I stopped judging him because he had his own challenges. He has had a very difficult life that began in abject poverty in Iran. And it wasn’t easy for Jews growing up in Iran. Who knows what his childhood was like? Do you still judge your father?

TODAY
Rabbi Shmuley Boteach recorded 30 hours of conversations with the pop icon.
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Michael Jackson: I used to. I used to get so angry at him. I would just go in my room and just scream out of anger because I didn’t understand how a person could be so vicious and mean. Like sometimes I would be in bed sleeping, it would be 12 o’clock at night. I would have recorded all day, been singing all day, no fun, no play. He comes home late. “Open the door.” The door is locked. He said, “I am going to give you five seconds before I kick it down.” And he starts kicking it, breaking the door down.

He said, “Why didn’t you sign the contract?” I go, “I don’t know.” He goes, “Well, sign it. If you don’t sign it you are in trouble.” It’s like, “Oh my God, why? Where is the love? Where is the fatherhood?” I go, “Is it really this way?” He would throw you and hit you as hard as he can. He was very physical.

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Jackson had a troubled relationship with his father, Joe. He stated that he was physically and emotionally abused during incessant rehearsals, with whippings and name-calling, though also crediting his father's strict discipline with playing a large role in his success.[24] In one altercation recalled by Marlon, Joseph held Michael upside down by one leg and "pummeled him over and over again with his hand, hitting him on his back and buttocks".[25] Joseph would also grab his sons and push them with great force against the wall. One night while Michael was asleep, Joseph climbed into his room through the bedroom window, wearing a fright mask and screamed, in hopes to scare him. He said he wanted to teach the children not to leave the window open when they went to sleep. For years afterward, Jackson said he suffered nightmares about being kidnapped from his bedroom.[25] Joseph acknowledged in 2003 that he regularly whipped Jackson as a child.[26]

Jackson first spoke openly about his childhood abuse in an interview with Oprah Winfrey broadcast on February 10, 1993 live around the world. He admitted that he had often cried from loneliness and he would vomit on the sight of his father. Jackson's father was also said to have verbally abused Jackson, saying that he had a fat nose on numerous occasions.[27] In fact, Michael Jackson's deep dissatisfaction with his appearance, his nightmares and chronic sleep problems, his tendency to remain hyper-compliant especially with his father, and to remain child-like throughout his adult life are in many ways consistent with the effects of this chronic maltreatment he endured as a young child.[28] In an interview with Martin Bashir, later included in the 2003 broadcast of Living with Michael Jackson, Jackson acknowledged that his father hurt him when he was a child, but was nonetheless a "genius," as he admitted his father's strict discipline played a huge role in his success. When Bashir dismissed the positive remark and continued asking about beatings, Jackson put his hand over his face and objected to the questions. He recalled that Joseph sat in a chair with a belt in his hand as he and his siblings rehearsed, and that "if you didn't do it the right way, he would tear you up, really get you".[29]